Podcasting since 2018 · 49 Episodes

Therapy for
Humans.

Ever wonder what your therapist really thinks? This one will tell you. Real talk on relationships, mental health, and what actually happens when things get messy.

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You Keep Using That Word...

Gaslighting is one of the most overused words in the therapy lexicon right now — and that overuse is doing real damage. Getting the language right isn't about letting anyone off the hook. It's about solving for the right problem.

EP. 49 · Season 3 · Apr 7, 2026
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Season 3 2024 – 2026 · 19 Episodes
49
You Keep Using That Word...
Gaslighting is one of the most overused words in the therapy lexicon right now — and that overuse is doing real damage.
48
Stop Trying to Feel Good About Yourself
We've spent decades trying to build self-esteem. Turns out it might be the exhaust, not the engine.
6 min
47
Public Meltdowns, and the Men Who Have Them
Airports are a stress test for who you actually are when the veneer comes off. In this episode, three men fail that test — including me.
46
Being Seen is Scary (and Necessary)
What is it like to be fully seen, and why should we put ourselves through that?
14 min
12 min
43
Why Apologies Fail, and What to Do About It
Basically, we suck at apologizing in our culture. Let's change that.
10 min
42
When Safety Becomes a Cage
Let's talk about the ways we keep ourselves confined — and how to break out.
10 min
41
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Let's check in about the narratives we have about ourselves.
9 min
40
Silent Contracts
Those unspoken agreements that seem to run our lives from the shadows.
9 min
39
Therapy Myths
Do you think you know what therapy is? Have a listen and see if you're right.
14 min
38
Fight for Those Friendships!
Why we don't fight for our friendships — and why we should.
9 min
37
Health and Wellness Overload
Everything in moderation — even therapy.
11 min
36
Positive Regard — It's Not Just for Baristas!
Thank your partner. You'll thank me.
13 min
35
Transitions
Change is hard, but often worth the effort.
11 min
34
Witnessing
What does it mean to really listen?
10 min
Season 2 2021 · 3 Episodes
33
Episode 33
A little PSA for you, plus the filters our brains place on our thoughts.
12 min
32
Finding Other People Attractive / Is Your Partner on the Autism Spectrum?
Two questions people are afraid to ask out loud.
12 min
31
I'm Back — Let's Build a Box for the Stuff in Your Head
Season 2 opener. A practical tool for managing intrusive thoughts.
12 min
Season 1 2018 – 2020 · 30 Episodes
30
Break Ups, Therapy as a Career, and Narcissistic Parents
Three questions from listeners, all in one episode.
16 min
29
How to Talk to Your Kids About the Coronavirus
Plus: tending to your inner child during a crisis.
16 min
28
The Coronavirus and How Not to Go Completely Off the Rails
Early pandemic episode. Still relevant, probably.
16 min
27
Recovery from Abuse
What recovery actually looks like — and what it takes.
14 min
26
It's OK to Be Skeptical!
Healthy skepticism in therapy and in life.
11 min
25
Division of Labor, Apologies, and a Tip on Grief
Three things that come up in almost every relationship.
13 min
24
More of Rowan's Ramblings
A solo episode. Topics include religion, family, and things that are hard to talk about.
13 min
23
The Tattoo Show!
What tattoos say about identity, secrets, and self-expression.
18 min
22
The Money Issue — Why is Therapy So Expensive?
An honest answer to a question nobody likes to ask.
22 min
21
Handling a Partner's Health Issues / Setting Internal Boundaries
Two listener questions, both about staying in your own lane.
14 min
20
Why is Everyone Stoned All the Time? / Finding Trust After Trauma
Colorado problems and universal ones.
21 min
19
Middle Schoolers and Religion / Concerns Around a New Relationship
Two very different questions, both about trust.
12 min
18
Sexless Marriage (and New Office Furniture)
One is more interesting than the other.
11 min
17
Emotional Generosity / A Daughter Feeling Shut Down by Her Dad
What it costs to withhold, and what it gives to offer.
16 min
16
Accountability — How to Get It, How to Give It
The one thing most relationships are missing.
10 min
15
When Problems Are Ignored / Mandated Reporting
What happens when we look the other way — professionally and personally.
23 min
14
When Your Kids Have Overnight Guests / Slacker Neighbors
Boundaries at home, inside and out.
17 min
13
Rowan's State of the Union / Loving Divorced Parents / Gift-Giving Gone Crazy
A state of the show, plus holiday survival tips.
16 min
12
Where I Share Too Much About My Own Stuff / Social Anxiety
An unusually personal episode.
21 min
11
Imposter Syndrome, Mindfulness, and Productivity
Interview outtakes with Annie Lacroix, AKA the Brainy Boss.
26 min
10
Supporting Grieving Friends / Service Dogs vs. Emotional Support Animals / My Boss is a Narcissist
The rant episode.
14 min
9
The Perfect Family Holiday (Does It Exist?) / "Triggered" / Open Marriage
Three things nobody agrees on.
20 min
8
Setting Boundaries with Family / Talking About Your Trans Kid / Teens Who Are Cutting
Hard conversations that need to happen.
22 min
7
Childhood Sexual Abuse / Why Don't Things Work Out for Me? / Social Anxiety Tips
Three questions, one honest hour.
21 min
6
Are Antidepressants Over-Prescribed? (Hell Yes) / Holiday Relationships
Rowan has opinions. Surprising no one.
18 min
5
Gaming or Depression? / Raising Functional Humans / The "Go-To" Parent
Parenting questions from people doing their best.
18 min
4
How Much Sex is Too Much? / Online Dating / Grieving Friends
Listener questions from across the spectrum.
18 min
3
Insecurity, Bad Days, 6th Graders Dealing Weed, and Social Media
Third time's a charm.
20 min
2
I Have a Crush on My Therapist! / How to Choose the Right Therapist / Forgiving Yourself
The questions people are embarrassed to ask.
19 min
1
How Do You Find a Decent Therapist? / When People You Love Turn Their Backs / Are Men Capable of Real Relationships?
Where it all started. October 2018.
21 min

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