Therapy for
Humans.

46

Being Seen is Scary (and Necessary)

What is it like to be fully seen, and why should we put ourselves through that?

14 min

45

What if Your Therapist Sucks?

How to critically evaluate the therapy you're getting — and what to do about it if it's falling short.

28 min

44

Why Being Seen is So Hard, and So Important

Being seen means true and authentic vulnerability. It's not easy — but it is essential.

12 min

43

Why Apologies Fail, and What to Do About It

Basically, we suck at apologizing in our culture. Let's change that.

10 min

42

When Safety Becomes a Cage

Let's talk about the ways we keep ourselves confined — and how to break out.

10 min

41

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Let's check in about the narratives we have about ourselves.

9 min

40

Silent Contracts

Those unspoken agreements that seem to run our lives from the shadows.

9 min

39

Therapy Myths

Do you think you know what therapy is? Have a listen and see if you're right.

14 min

38

Fight for Those Friendships!

Why we don't fight for our friendships — and why we should.

9 min

37

Health and Wellness Overload

Everything in moderation — even therapy.

11 min

36

Positive Regard — It's Not Just for Baristas!

Thank your partner. You'll thank me.

13 min

35

Transitions

Change is hard, but often worth the effort.

11 min

34

Witnessing

What does it mean to really listen?

10 min

33

Episode 33

A little PSA for you, plus the filters our brains place on our thoughts.

12 min

32

Finding Other People Attractive / Is Your Partner on the Autism Spectrum?

Two questions people are afraid to ask out loud.

12 min

31

I'm Back — Let's Build a Box for the Stuff in Your Head

Season 2 opener. A practical tool for managing intrusive thoughts.

12 min

30

Break Ups, Therapy as a Career, and Narcissistic Parents

Three questions from listeners, all in one episode.

16 min

29

How to Talk to Your Kids About the Coronavirus

Plus: tending to your inner child during a crisis.

16 min

28

The Coronavirus and How Not to Go Completely Off the Rails

Early pandemic episode. Still relevant, probably.

16 min

27

Recovery from Abuse

What recovery actually looks like — and what it takes.

14 min

26

It's OK to Be Skeptical!

Healthy skepticism in therapy and in life.

11 min

25

Division of Labor, Apologies, and a Tip on Grief

Three things that come up in almost every relationship.

13 min

24

More of Rowan's Ramblings

A solo episode. Topics include religion, family, and things that are hard to talk about.

13 min

23

The Tattoo Show!

What tattoos say about identity, secrets, and self-expression.

18 min

22

The Money Issue — Why is Therapy So Expensive?

An honest answer to a question nobody likes to ask.

22 min

21

Handling a Partner's Health Issues / Setting Internal Boundaries

Two listener questions, both about staying in your own lane.

14 min

20

Why is Everyone Stoned All the Time? / Finding Trust After Trauma

Colorado problems and universal ones.

21 min

19

Middle Schoolers and Religion / Concerns Around a New Relationship

Two very different questions, both about trust.

12 min

18

Sexless Marriage (and New Office Furniture)

One is more interesting than the other.

11 min

17

Emotional Generosity / A Daughter Feeling Shut Down by Her Dad

What it costs to withhold, and what it gives to offer.

16 min

16

Accountability — How to Get It, How to Give It

The one thing most relationships are missing.

10 min

15

When Problems Are Ignored / Mandated Reporting

What happens when we look the other way — professionally and personally.

23 min

14

When Your Kids Have Overnight Guests / Slacker Neighbors

Boundaries at home, inside and out.

17 min

13

Rowan's State of the Union / Loving Divorced Parents / Gift-Giving Gone Crazy

A state of the show, plus holiday survival tips.

16 min

12

Where I Share Too Much About My Own Stuff / Social Anxiety

An unusually personal episode.

21 min

11

Imposter Syndrome, Mindfulness, and Productivity

Interview outtakes with Annie Lacroix, AKA the Brainy Boss.

26 min

10

Supporting Grieving Friends / Service Dogs vs. Emotional Support Animals / My Boss is a Narcissist

The rant episode.

14 min

9

The Perfect Family Holiday (Does It Exist?) / "Triggered" / Open Marriage

Three things nobody agrees on.

20 min

8

Setting Boundaries with Family / Talking About Your Trans Kid / Teens Who Are Cutting

Hard conversations that need to happen.

22 min

7

Childhood Sexual Abuse / Why Don't Things Work Out for Me? / Social Anxiety Tips

Three questions, one honest hour.

21 min

6

Are Antidepressants Over-Prescribed? (Hell Yes) / Holiday Relationships

Rowan has opinions. Surprising no one.

18 min

5

Gaming or Depression? / Raising Functional Humans / The "Go-To" Parent

Parenting questions from people doing their best.

18 min

4

How Much Sex is Too Much? / Online Dating / Grieving Friends

Listener questions from across the spectrum.

18 min

3

Insecurity, Bad Days, 6th Graders Dealing Weed, and Social Media

Third time's a charm.

20 min

2

I Have a Crush on My Therapist! / How to Choose the Right Therapist / Forgiving Yourself

The questions people are embarrassed to ask.

19 min

1

How Do You Find a Decent Therapist? / When People You Love Turn Their Backs / Are Men Capable of Real Relationships?

Where it all started. October 2018.

21 min